Step right up Ladies to the ride of a lifetime. The hormonal rollercoaster of menopause mood swings is a Bitch with a capital B. But mood can be managed easily with these 5 simple mind tricks.
Lately my girlfriends and I have been cracking jokes about spontaneously bursting into tears in odd places for no real reason at all. For example, last week I did some grocery shopping, loaded said groceries into my car and proceeded to sob. If you would have asked me what I was crying about, my answer would have been, “I have no idea”. Another friend posted on social media that she was acting like the wicked witch lately for no good reason. Comments below her post from other women all had the same tone in common … they too felt like they were not fun to be around. If we don’t like how we are acting. No one around us is enjoying our company either!
So what is happening to us?
The general medical consensus, is that our mood is most affected by hormones during perimenopause (the phase before your periods stop) but can last well past menopause. In a nutshell, our ovaries are screeching to a halt and this causes fluctuating hormones. The change in these levels can make you feel like another person. Imagine PMS on blast. Now factor in all the other wonderful midlife experiences that may or may not have some connection to hormone changes: We mourn our youth and see ourselves as less attractive, which can effect our confidence. We have body changes, chin whiskers, a new belly tire, thinning hair and wrinkles, just to name a few. There might be regrets for “time lost”. We can be worrying about our aging parents or becoming empty nesters. We have more painful periods, body aches and are finally “feeling our age”. And on top of it all, good old sleep deprivation, whether it be from worry, night sweats or insomnia. It’s no wonder we are emotionally unstable at times … or all the time!
But have no fear my dear. I’m going to share with you some things that have worked for my friends and I … and it’s easier than you might think. You just have to remember not to get lost in the dark times of menopause mood swings. And you must also remind yourself that 1 bad day doesn’t have to be 10 bad days. You really do have a choice to mentally feel better. Try all of the options below in the next 2 weeks and get back to feeling like yourself no matter how erratic the hormonal rollercoaster is rolling along.
5 Easy Ways to Improve Your Mood
DANCE – Turn on the music Sister and dance like no one is watching. Or dance with whoever is. Music has been proven to impact our mood. So head on over to youtube and make your 80’s playlist of favorite upbeat songs and get your groove on. Not only will the exercise purge pent up negative energy but you will change your brain circuitry and release those happy hormones.
GIRL TIME – Spend time with your girlfriends. Female energy and bonding is important. It grounds you and reminds you that you are not alone in Club Woman. Many times we isolate ourselves when feeling crappy. Do not do this; instead reach out for that much needed human connection.
MIRROR TALK – Our subconscious mind directly influences our mood without us being aware. All those negative thoughts about yourself go somewhere and that somewhere is a driving force in your everyday life. There is a theory that one way we can influence our subconscious is to talk to it directly. Start your day by looking into your own eyes in the mirror. Speak some positive thoughts to yourself as well as positive wishes for the day. You will find that the more you do this … the more you will start to feel in control of how you feel.
BEDTIME REVAMP – Sleep is super important when going through menopause. Rest at this stage of our lives has a critical effect on how we feel the next day. Menopause foggy brain and forgetfulness is one thing is. Add sleepy brain to this mix and you can feel like a walking disaster. If you are waking up sweating and cold, have dry clothes near the bed at all times to be able to change and get back to sleep more quickly. One leg in, one leg out? Have a fan pointed directly at that leg. Sometimes that’s all it takes to get comfortable. Pay attention to making your bedroom your place of peace. Make it as pleasing as you can with new paint or a new bed or just some new sheets. Make this room a comfort priority for yourself and plan a bedtime routine. Have a warm bath or give yourself a warm oil massage while you sip camomile tea. Whatever it takes … make your sleep time of great importance.
WATER WORKS – You know how a shower can make you feel better? Or how you feel calm and refreshed after a swim? Well, we humans have a huge connection to water. The feel of water on our body can be a distraction from stress and negative thoughts. It helps us turn our thoughts inward almost like meditation. Also the temperature can either soothe us (warm) or energize us (cold). Our mood can shift and we feel cleansed and rejuvenated. Don’t have time for a bath and want a quick mental kick in the butt? Just splash icy cold water on your face. Sometimes that’s all the water you need to change your gloomy state of mind around.
Whatever you do, remember that you do have a choice in how you feel. Yes, let yourself experience the down times but don’t let yourself get stuck there. Try these menopause mood swing enhancers or seek out other ones. And most important, if you find that you are in serious trouble with the way your menopause mind is working … speak to a Doctor about it as soon as you can.
Let us know what works for you in the comment section below. We can all use more tools in our mental menopause toolbox.
Wishing you happy days and lots of laughter Sister.